New Year Hype

Hosted by: Emm (@emmbodiment) <> Developer DAO

Approaching all of the new year, identify these 3 things:

• Resolution - firm decision is to do / not do something

  • can be part of a goal

• Goal - desired result

  • The end point of that resolution

• Habit - regular practice or something a part of your day

• Are you starting a habit or ending a habit?

  • They take different work — giving something up is different than adding something

  • Commit to find balance

  • Recognize when things are not working

What it takes to start a habit

• Recognize when you are starting a habit, you need just as much support as removing it

• Steps:

  • Write down everything you want to change in the new year and give attention to in the new year

  • Do a + or - of what is an addition of a habit or subtraction of a habit

    • Are they a bunch of little habits or a big habit

  • SMART Goals (General management review): specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound

    • Specific: I want to be a runner...does that mean marathon, sprint, exercise, hobby?

      • specifics help you feel better

    • Measurable: habit-tracking apps, Dailyo app and Habitify and Notion (Habit Tracking Template)

      • Keep you organized

      • make sure you don’t have a big cloud of achievement you have to get...break it down

    • Achievable: it takes steps to get there

      • Maybe to start running, start listening to hype up playlist, put on running clothes for a week, then go around the block for a week

      • Build up to the massive goal of “becoming a runner”

      • If little habits are working, then you will get to the big goal

    • Relevant: ask yourself, “is this something I want to myself” “actively contributing to what I desire or is it something society is telling me I need?”

      • You should eat plants in the new year

      • Don’t cave into society pressure...if it’s not for you, it won’t stick

      • No change ever stays if it’s done through force...replace with compassion and self-awareness

    • Time-Bound: give-yourself 30 days and see where you’re at...don’t be in a rush to see something sooner than that

      • Dedicate yourself to the experimentation of the process

Write it down to get it out of your head

• Getting it out of the depths of our mind can seem more daunting than it is

• Writing it down and breaking up the goal into smaller habits/goals... on days you feel less motivated

• Find what you love

  • In summer...waking up early, see sun rise, workout, it’s warm, it’s easier to do exercise as example

  • In winter...last thing you want to do is get out and workout...when you look at goals for December and goal is to do more exercise

    • reserve more time in the afternoon...see ahead to the roadblocks...see things from get-go...can help you plan better and be more compassionate to yourself when those roadblocks come up (this is who I am, this is what I struggle with, in this moment i am struggling with this...can lead to a place of experimentation)

What it takes to remove a habit

• If you’re taking something out of your life, take a moment to slow down and dive into what that means for you

  • Example: “People who want to give up X” - if X is a social thing, and you do X at social events....it can seem hard to do one and not the other

    • Set yourself up with social plans so you leave X behind but not the social

    • Don’t give up more than you realize

• Humans have a natural negativity bias — negative thoughts/emotions/things speaks louder in our minds (inner voices) than positive things

  • When you are in a place of change, frame up in your mind in gains instead of losses

  • If you always think of things as losses....you’ll never feel totally fulfilled or successful or content

    • Try again the next day and show up for the practice

• Our human nature is just cognitively wired — know and recognize how you are framing something in a way that’s negative in a way that you can do it positively

• When you think of negatively in the long run...you won’t remember it

  • you won’t remember it in the long run

  • that loss/failure is probably be forgotten

  • The successes are what we remember....so remember that when you are in the moment and things aren’t going right or something happens

• Document that celebration....so when you go into it

• Amazon’s COE (Correction of Error) = a report to help you catch up on failures/blunders/errors but you frame it as a positive so you can learn

Mental Blocks

• To look for:

  • This is too much to handle

  • This is too much on my plate

  • I can’t do all of this

• In January, it’s unrealistic to start working on every new years resolution you have (”I’m going to start running, and go vegan, and climb a mountain”)

  • Go 100% into 1 thing or 80% into 1 thing and 20% into a second

  • Choose 1 resolution you want to do in January in 30 days....see what works/what needs adjustment/if this is a goal you want to keep working on

• Don’t overwhelm yourself — no one becomes super man overnight

  • What’s sexy is within a short period of time

Is it too much to handle or am I coming up with excuses?

• It’s really easy to come up with excuses...balancing act of pushing it upon yourself and pushing yourself to get better

• Differentiating factor: the way in which you are mentally feeling and community around you and what the goal specifically is

  • if you are taking time to slow down, journal, end goal you have in mind, make it important vs what society is choosing for you

  • if you’re waking up at 11am instead of waking up early and exercising

    • if you can cognitively address why you are working on something...you owe it to your past self to show up for your goals and ideals

• Maybe the habit isn’t right for you or maybe the habit is too fast...come from the goal with a place of compassion instead of desperation

  • If you want to be a runner....are you saying this because your life lacks exercise or everyone in your community guild is doing it...take time to slow down and be compassionate with yourself and be realistic

  • It’s a delicate balance

• Experimentation of a habit is pushing your limits/boundaries — how much can you push yourself

  • Recognize where that line is for yourself

• Resources:

  • Building Atomic Habits — how you stack them, environment plays a roll

Halloween - identify as your goal everyday, not just one one day of the year

• On Halloween, we get 1 day in the year to be whatever we want to be and live that character...

  • Have that identity and live in that everyday

  • Why can’t we have that mindset everyday?